My wife recently overheard a conversation where a
lady woman was lamenting to someone how unfortunate it was that she had kids. As if that wasn’t bad in itself she admitted that she often told her children how she felt. She let them know that she does not appreciate them in her life and they are robbing her of the life she once had. Perhaps this woman needs a lesson on the birds and the bees. Someone needs to let her know that children don’t just show up uninvited. Well at least not until they are 18 and over. They show up because someone gambled and lost. It’s too bad that the little innocent ones have to be the ones feeling like intruders.
You always hear the saying, ‘Some people shouldn’t have kids’ and this is true in her case. The only thing is, she’s beaten us to the punch and said so herself. She also mentioned that her kids keep her from travelling. Oh yes! Those darn brats keep us from going anywhere and having fun! But us REAL parents would NEVER EVER tell them that. And that’s only because we made that choice to bring them into this world to interrupt our lives as we knew it. Even some of us who didn’t make the choice, learn to live with the consequences and go on to foster loving relationships with their kids.
If I ponder on the things I’ve lost or given up since my three little boys came into my life, I too would probably get depressed. They are 6 years old and under which means they are still very dependent and take up more of my life than anything else. I choose instead to sit and ponder what they bring into my life and that far outweighs what they took. The darn little rug rats ARE my life.
Not everyone feels the same about having kids and I really don’t hold it against them. I have a co-worker who prefers her cats to children and another who likes dogs but not humans. So it’s a matter of choice and taste. Unfortunately, the woman mentioned about didn’t exercise her choices and ended up in the position she is in. (Hey! No pun intended). There is however, a lot of people who are willing and capable of being parents. She should explore some of these alternatives before she does irreparable damage to the little ones.